The Indecisive Bride’s Guide to Post-Wedding Blues
After months of careful planning, years of romantic visualization, and hours of primping, your wedding experience has come to a sudden halt. The honeymoon is over and you’re crashing after a steady diet of champagne and oysters.
With such intense build-up toward this milestone, it’s no wonder we’re seeing more and more Blue Brides, that is, women left feeling bummed when all the excitement is over. Blue Brides are overcome with feelings of melancholy – “How can anything else compare?” With so much cultural significance sitting on the wedding day, it’s a high that’s hard to come down from.
But before you get all Basic and resort to Häagen-Dazs and Snuggies, pull your slippers up and approach this downheartedness with logic. Here are some things to keep in mind if you’re headed into Blue Bride territory:
Talk it out with your new spouse
Be honest with your partner, and ask for some insight. Your emotions are completely legitimate, and they might be feeling the blues too!
Change your Perspective
Instead of mourning the loss of your wedding, focus your energy on the fact that you’ve just experienced an incredibly momentous ceremony. Reflect on the impact of this marriage, and what it means to you and your loved ones. Instead of thinking about your seemingly sub-par future, grab your marriage by the kahunas and say, “We are starting this off right!”
Reflect and Relax
Plan to be at home for a couple days instead of rushing back to work after your wedding or honeymoon. Meditate on how wonderful your celebration was, and let yourself absorb all that love! Take an hour to write down all the details of your wedding. How you felt, what you ate, how your dad cried when you had your first dance. It could end up being the best keepsake of all.
Offer a hand to the next Bride
Were you one of those strange brides who loved the planning process? Picking out colours and flowers and dessert and dresses and wine, oh my. Offer your expertise to brides in your network! Share your vendor list. Take on a project for them. The majority will be thrilled to have an extra pair of hands and some sage advice from an old wedding veteran like you.